Be A Man And Treat Her Like A Woman
The lines are changing and men are adopting female attitudes, communication skills and other female characteristics in the workplace. Roles are blurring. Woman are acting more like men every day as they assume traditional male roles in the business world. This may be a step backwards in development of our social condition and relationship patterns. Men are treating women more like men. This applies to their wives, peers in the office, supervisors and employees, and frankly, I do not believe it works very well at all, especially when women and men work together as husband and wife in small business situations. This is not my attempt to restrict woman’s advances in the business world, or to demonstrate my own biases, not at all. It’s based on personal experience and observations, and listening and watching.
What is happening is that as women advance their careers, they are acting as and being treated like men. For example, they have adopted the competitiveness of male colleagues. But in my estimation, the cold reality is that despite their enhanced skills, focused education and successful experience, they are and always will be women and should be treated as woman should be treated. This does not mean they should be treated in a discriminatory way, or as less than equal to men, but there is a difference between men and women and we should be respectful of it. It’s just an observation but one that if better understood might result in more successful relationships wherever men and women interact. Men must always remember that despite a woman’s newfound success in what had been traditionally man’s position in the workplace, men should treat a woman differently than men treat men. There is a difference and we should be embracing this difference.
Women and men must reestablish their self-definition and their male and female standards, as men and as women are emulating each other and the relationship standards are digressing… in my opinion. Men’s values, standards, methods of communicating, competitive attitudes and rules are very different from women’s and how they react and respond in similar situations. Thus, men must recognize this fact and remember how women need to be treated. Think about it. If you agree, correct your way. This will not diminish their effectiveness and progress in the business world, in fact, I believe it may enhance these roles.
The flip side of this issue is also true. Men are acting more like women in so many situations. Men are mimicking their mothers, sisters, female teachers, the women in their lives at home and in the business world. While feigning sensitivity and acquiring New Age awareness and a sense of female fair play, their communication, actions and responses are getting more female-like in many situations. They are adopting more of the female view and response, thinking, communicating style and are mimicking women’s attitudes and standards. Men are getting feminized early in their development as woman are getting masculinized, and I, for one, do not believe this is in any of our best interests.
This does not mean woman cannot achieve the highest possible levels of acceptance in the business world. If earned, they should definitely enjoy such opportunity, but can’t they do this without sacrificing their feminine aura and persona, without melding into male-like attitudes, without men treating them more like men than like women? Cannot men stake their claim as a men and maintain standards that are male-like and not emulate feminine attitudes, communication styles, etc.?
I hope so. Just a thought based on much observation and discussion with my clients. It’s hardly scientific and definitely just my opinion.
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